Healing, Spirituality and Self-Help Book Recommendations

I wanted to share with you some books that have come into my life at different times and really spoke to me. They helped me gain new insights into situations I was going through, or made me feel reassured about the way I was thinking and feeling during the time the book came to me. I really believe that there is some magic in that moment when we start reading a book, and it tells us so many things we were just waiting to hear.

Some of the books below I continue to use regularly as guide books and reference books. I hope they might be of interest to you too. Please feel free to contact me with any questions about these books!

  • For your spiritual awakening:  A New Earth - by Eckhart Tolle

  • For understanding how the body holds trauma and how to release it: The Body Keeps the Score - by Bessel van der Kolk

  • For the psychosomatic causes of physical ailments: Heal Your Body - by Louise Hay

  • For understanding why yourself and others behave a certain way in relationships: Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment - by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller

  • For a lot of information about different plant medicines and psychedelics: Breaking Open The Head - by Daniel Pinchbeck

  • For Native American Moon Wisdom: The Thirteen Original Clan Mothers - by Jamie Sams

  • For how to work with crystals: The Crystal Code - by Tamara Driessen

  • For magic spells: Everyday Magic - by Semra Haksever

On my wishlist to read:

  • How to Change your Mind - by Michael Pollan

Happy reading!


Spring Equinox Rituals & Celebrations

Who is ready for a season change? It’s nearly the Spring Equinox, or the ‘vernal equinox’, which is considered astronomically to mark the first day of Spring. Night and day are of equal (equi) length on this day as the Sun is exactly above the Equator and the Northern Hemisphere then begins to tilt towards the Sun, signalling the days getting longer and warmer again. Yay! I don’t know about you, but I am ready for it.

Winter is a great time for going inwards, resting, hibernating, and taking time to recharge, but at some point you feel ready to be outside again, moving around more, getting projects moving.

This year, 2019, the Spring Equinox falls on Wednesday 20th March (exact at 22:58 CET). For 2019, the equinox coincides with a Full Moon ‘Supermoon’ too. The moon will be at the point closest to Earth on its elliptical orbit, making it appear brighter. Full Moons often fill us with a lot of energy, as the Moon reflects a lot of light from the Sun onto Earth during the night. So, what can we do to mark this bright, energetically charged day and night and the coming of Spring?!

Here are some ideas for rituals and celebrations. These ideas could also be implemented a day or two after the Equinox if you need more time, whilst still harnessing the luminous power of the Moon.

△ Start that project/ hobby/ sport/ study program that you have been wanting to start for ages but haven’t found the energy for.

△ Dance! Move your body, meet friends, listen to great music, and celebrate the warmth and light coming again. Appreciate the cycles of life and the seasons we go through every year.

△ Plant seeds and plants. The gravitational pull of the moon is strongest at the full moon, this means the water in the soil will be pulled upwards and as the moon wanes, the moisture will go down to the roots. As we move into Spring, watch your new plant babies grow.

△ Create! Paint, draw, write, bake, build... Feel inspired by the change of energy, plants beginning to appear, nature coming alive, and make something new for yourself or others.

△ Go outside and connect with nature. Feel the connection that nature has with the warmth and energy of the Sun, and the increased activity of the plants and animals.

△ and finally, that great tradition… Spring Clean! Clean your room, clean your house, clean your windows, clean your fridge!

painting outside for spring equinox

On understanding Reiki, and why I became a Reiki Practitioner.

Reiki involves channelling energy, universal energy, which as a Reiki practitioner you learn how to tune-in to and ‘send’. This idea may sound strange and unbelievable to some people. I can totally understand that, but I can also tell you that for me, Reiki and the connection to this energy, and channelling it as a healing practice is very real. It is something that can be physically felt and can be perceived in a visual way too.

‘Reiki’ is a Japanese word which means: universal or spiritual (Rei) energy (Ki). To quote from my Reiki practitioner manual: “this vital [life] energy surrounds our bodies, keeping them alive, and is present in all organisms. When the Ki leaves the body, this body ceases to have life.”

I was first drawn to Reiki as I began to feel strong tingling sensations in my hands during times when I was meditating or after yoga. I am a person who is quite sensitive to my surroundings, and I feel comfortable with the label ‘Highly Sensitive Person’ or HSP which is a personality trait that is being increasingly accepted and believed to be experienced by 15-20% of the population. It involves being easily and sometimes strongly stimulated and affected on an emotional and nervous system level by what you are experiencing. For example I have strong reactions and sensitivity to sounds, certain social situations, various foods and chemical stimulants such as caffeine, and I also feel very emotionally sensitive to what is happening around me. I particularly like this post about HSP’s if you are interested in learning more https://www.expansiveheart.com/hsp.

I had heard of Reiki, but there was something which I was experiencing on a physical level (the tingling hands during times when I was meditating and after yoga) which encouraged me to learn more about Reiki. It was through a series of amazing events whilst travelling in Mexico that I met a woman who is a Reiki Master Teacher. She became a very special support, friend, and mentor, and went on to become my Reiki Teacher.

During the first level of Reiki practitioner training, you learn how to use Reiki as a healing and connection mode for yourself first. To ‘qualify’ as a Reiki practitioner it is expected that you give yourself a Reiki treatment every day for 21 days, which involves holding your hands over 12 different areas of your body for three minutes in each position. It is expected that you do this for 21 consecutive days and if you miss a day you have to start from the beginning again at day one! This is a great practice as not only do you rebalance and heal on an energetic level, you also form a new life habit too.

The practice of energy channelling appears in different forms in many cultures. If you are interested in learning more about Reiki, please get in touch. I would be happy to answer your questions.


The Gift of Self-Healing

As can sometimes be the reality with social media, it may have looked to the outside that I had started 2019 in an exciting way, having recently launched my website at the end of 2018, and I was beginning to offer events through social platforms such as Facebook, to connect with people as a Reiki practitioner in Berlin. I did start 2019 with a bang. For the past few years I have set myself the intention to start every (Gregorian calendar) New Year by doing something significant on the 1st of January, the essence of which I wish to carry with me through the rest of the year. This year, during the first week of January, I completed my Reiki Master training [a Reiki Master is able to teach others how to use Reiki] via Skype with my dear, wonderful Reiki teacher in Mexico, Violeta. Violeta gently warned me, “this new threshold will shake out of you what may have gotten comfortable within you, but must be let go”. In all honesty I didn’t pay this advice too much heed, as I tend to be generally optimistic about most of my endeavours. However, the first few weeks of 2019 would prove to be a huge challenge for me.

It might have looked like I was doing exciting things via social media, but in reality I was struggling, with anxiety, self-doubt, insecurity and overwhelm. Following the launch of my website I was lucky enough to receive quite a lot of interest. I began by offering Astrology readings as well as Reiki treatments, however I also still work my day-job as an English teacher. The first two weeks of the year were non-stop for me and I quickly became burnt out and run down.

I planned my first workshop of 2019 for mid January, in which I wanted to introduce Reiki and Cacao practices to others. However, in the week leading up to the event I was questioning myself, stressing myself out and worrying about if I was enough and whether people would come. Working with energy in the modern age can be challenging, especially with sceptics, as the results can be more subtle, not always immediately felt, and something you can not exactly physically see. Due to my anxiety, and a few personal challenges, I ended up cancelling the event, and then felt worse in some ways, as I felt like I had let people down. This resulted in a pretty difficult headspace to be living in.

The ‘irony’ is, I am a healing arts practitioner. I work in this role to support others with the healing process around some of these same issues which I was facing. It was coming to a breaking point which reminded me that I have the gift within me to self-heal, as do we all, but sometimes we are so tangled up in our thoughts and emotions that we forget this, don’t see this, or feel stuck, and lost in the dark. Life is a process and a constant work-in-progress, for those with healing tools and those who are yet to discover them. Anyone who thinks they don’t need to work on themselves is kidding themself. So, I conducted a deep healing ritual with myself. During which I cried quite a lot, laughed a bit, and realised that another one of my gifts is the use of words and communication, and that I could connect with others and help myself by writing about this experience. My self healing experience was profound and I hope to share this information with others in the future, through trainings, treatments, workshops, and personal conversations. I have now re-thought how to structure my time, and I am currently not offering Astrology, with the intention to focus more on Reiki.

During an open question-and-answer session with my English students recently, one of the students asked me the question ‘What is your biggest dream?’ This question caught me a little off-guard. I can gratefully say that right now, as I approach my 31st birthday, I feel really content with the amount that I have travelled, experienced and the knowledge and realisations that I have had along the way. I’m actually in a position where I really want to give to, share with, and support others. The word ‘healer’ is an especially loaded word, and one I don’t feel comfortable with using as a goal for myself or a career label. As a Reiki practitioner you learn from the very beginning that we are ‘channels’ of healing energy and you must detach your ego from this. We are the sum of our experiences, and since my early twenties I have been willing and curious enough to seek out healing therapies of different kinds and put myself through what I need to experience in order to gain clarity and release. We all have this gift inside us, and I guess my biggest dream right now is for others to be able to realise this too, and I would like to share this with them.

Romana ‘Notes of a Healing Arts Practitioner’ - The Gift of Self-Healing blog post.
Romana from Reiki with Romana